If you have a really unusual and difficult to pronounce married name, should your friends learn it?

Is it a sign of disrespect to you or your husband if they haven't bothered to try to learn to pronounce it after 10 years?

If you have a really unusual and difficult to pronounce married name, should your friends learn it?
Yes. If they are close friends they should damn well know it! Geez. Some people are rude! I know I would be embarrassed, I wonder why they are not?





If they are acquaintances then I wouldn't stress it.
Reply:I would say so! especially if you communicate with them on a near daily basis or even a monthly basis- I would say that learning to pronounce your name properly is just plain common courtesy!
Reply:i would think that if they were your friends they could pronounce your last name
Reply:Some people put their own comfort first, and will not try to pronounce an unusual name because it makes them uncomfortable. Have you tried to give them an easier alternative, or have you insisted on perfection? Of course they should try. You should also accept whatever effort they're willing to put into it.





That said, I had one frustrating friend in high school who wouldn't tell the rest of us her real name because she said we'd never get it right. It was her choice to give us a simplified version. A few of us wanted to try the real name, but she never spilled those beans.





The only way this will ever be resolved is if your friends put your wishes and comfort ahead of their own (and learn to say the name as best they can) OR you put theirs ahead of yours (and let them say whatever's comfortable for them.) Either one would work, and you're the only one you can successfully change.
Reply:Absolutely it is. There's no excuse for that, it's just pure laziness. You can perhaps find something it rhymes with, to help them get the hang of it. But if the name is that difficult to pronounce, does it interfere with your husband's business life? Have you ever considered changing it?
Reply:Friends of earnest will learn to pronounce the name. Others will laugh it off and their friendship is questionable.

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